Don’s story

Oct 5, 2020 | Stories

Mum and Dad have been married for 61 years. They’d hardly spent a night apart in all that time but when Mum’s Alzheimers progressed earlier this year, he could no longer look after her in their own home as she needed full-time care.

Once mum moved into a care home, Dad would travel each day to see her. Even after the Covid virus hit, he would still go and see his beloved wife through the window of her Home. Dad thought that visiting mum at the window like this would just be temporary but months later nothing’s changed and there’s no end in sight.

Mum is well cared for in her home but her face lights up when she knows that Dad is coming. However, mum doesn’t recognise dad with a mask on and she can’t hear him through the window and so these restricted visits are stressful for them both.

Dad wants to dance with Mum like they used to do. He’d put her favourite songs on and they would dance together in the lounge of the care home. He desperately wants to do that again. He desperately wants to hold her and tell her how much he loves her.

Dad’s health is not great.  He has an underlying heart condition. He’s 86 years old and is now pining for his wife. He struggles to eat and sleep and is missing her so much it pains him. It pains the rest of us to watch him decline. They need to be with each other.   Why can’t they dance together again before it’s too late?

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As the Ambassador for Rights for Residents, West End performer Ruthie Henshall is campaigning for “Gloria’s Law”, in memory of her mother who passed away this year, after witnessing her decline from the other side of a care home window.

If passed this would ensure every resident has the legally enforced right to the support of an essential visitor, who could support them in all circumstances.

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